How to deal with rejection

Rejection is natural

Rejection is part of life, it often comes with relationships and jobs. Rejection is something that everyone goes through in their lives. There are healthy and unhealthy ways to deal with rejection. It's important to react to it in a healthy way.

How it feels

You can't decide if people will reject you or not, but you can decide how you deal with rejection. While searching for a developer job i have been rejected countless of times. Each time this happens i always go through the same emotional cycles. At first it feels like a punch to your gut, you start questioning your abilities and self doubt starts creeping in your mind. After that i start to feel overwhelming determination. "You don't decide about my abilities", "I am gonna make you regret not hiring me", these sort of thoughts usually come rushing in. It's important that facing rejection doesn't kill off your inner drive. If you truly want to achieve something, then nobody should be able to switch your inner drive off.

The chase is better than the catch

The first time i heard this phrase was in a ridiculous but awesome scooter song. That phrase is actually a very good philosophy to follow. Chasing after your dreams is much more fulfilling than actually achieving it. You should cherish the struggles which you are going through. Always be chasing something better, atrophy is the bane of human existence.

Job recruiters aren't perfect

It's important to know that recruiters are also just humans as well. Recruiting the right people for a job is a hard thing to accomplish. While coding i have noticed that whenever you feel like you know what your doing, it means that you don't actually know anything. I bet the job recruiters have same kinds of feelings. Just because you don't get hired for a job doesn't always mean that you aren't capable of doing it. 

My tips for dealing with rejection


Always keep a positive attitude. Knowing how to deal with rejection is an important ability to have in your life. Remember that the more times you get rejected, the easier it becomes to deal with it.